Friends come and go. Some last... the true friends, but lots just pass by. Yes the time spent with them could be fun, and they may have a significant Impact on that person's life but as people change and grow these relationships may fade.
This unfortunately happened to me. I have always had trouble making friends. I'm a bit of a loner, and shy, these traits may come across as standoffish and snobby. Over the years of high school and junior high I have made few friends and most of these friends did not last. Only for a year or so. Every year I hung out with different people and in grade 10 I only had two friends. This was not what I was not expecting or even wanted. My one friend was a pessimist and it was hard to be around her and the other was just a person that I hung around so that I would not be alone.
In grade 11, I made a true friend, she is great, supportive, funny and always there. We first became friends when we hung with the same group. Her "best friend" was a mutual friend of mine but we never really talked for a while, as we grew close, our other friend became jealous. She was not used to not having control over her and it was not something that she liked. It only took a couple months for her to completely cut us out of her life... Good riddings. She brought my friend down.
The two of us were almost attached by the hip, inseparable. We still are very close, we even have more things to talk about now that we go to separate schools, it is hard however to hang out lately. This is only due to diplomas though, and things will change.
I can't say the same about my other friends. The gap made between us due to one of their girlfriends and my injury did not bring us closer like it did with my true friend but it tore us apart. Our once fun encounters and plans became tainted with awkwardness. We had nothing to talk about, it seemed to me at this moment that our entire friendship was wrapped around our school life. And now that I am away from that environment we had nothing in common. This realization hurt. So I embraced this and went along with it.
All is wel, though. I needed this space to make new friends. When I cut them out and stopped hanging on, a girl that I met started to come to school more, this is how our friendship launched.
Sometimes things need to end before other things start. The statement "for every door that closes a window opens" is so true.
"Remember you don't need a certain number of friends, Just a number of friends you can be certain of"-Merko Kabod quotes
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